Spot on Jen Hatmaker:

 

"When you say YES to adoption, you are saying YES to enter the suffering of the orphan, and that suffering includes WAITING FOR YOU TO GET TO THEM. I promise you, their suffering is worse than yours. We say YES to the tears, YES to the longing, YES to the maddening process, YES to the money, YES to hope, YES to the screaming frustration of it all, YES to going the distance through every unforeseen... discouragement and delay. Do not imagine that something outside of "your perfect plan" means you heard God wrong. There is NO perfect adoption. EVERY adoption has snags. We Americans invented the "show me a sign" or "this is a sign" or "this must mean God is closing a door" or "God must not be in this because it is hard," but all that is garbage. You know what's hard? Being an orphan. They need us to be champions and heroes for them, fighting like hell to get them home. So we will. We may cry and rage and scream and wail in the process, but get them home we will."

 

She speaks the words every adoptive parent knows in their heart.  While the adoption process a tedious, heart aching process being an orphan is harder than anything we have to go through to bring them home.

 

It's not about me. 

 

It's not about what we're doing. 

 

It's about them. 

 

It's about giving a child the love and security only a family can offer.  Adoption, orphans, orphan care is not just black and white.  Their are a lot of grey areas but what's left when we get stuck in those grey areas is a child who deserves a home; the unconditional love of a family and the permanency of knowing they belong forever.

 

For in You the orphan finds mercy. -Hosea 14:3