Yesterday at HEB I had one of those experiences; when you don't know if you should laugh, cry or shake the person you are talking too.
It probably bears mentioning that I am a magnet for rude comments, inapporpriate questions and probing strangers.
The Scene: What Not to Say to an Expectant Adoptive Mama
The Set: Check out line of HEB
The Actors: Me wearing a Love the Orphan t-shirt and my Ethiopia bracelet, Gabe wearing an Ordinary Hero t-shirt, check out clerk in red HEB vest
Clerk: I like your shirt. Where is it from?
Me: Sevenly (then I shared with her about Sevenly and their mission)
Clerk: Is his shirt the same?
Me: No, his shirt is from Ordinary Hero. They help adoptive families fundraise to bring their children home.
Clerk(putting together our shirts and my Ethiopia bracelet): So y'all (obviously we live in the South with her use of y'all) are adopting from Ethipia?
Me: Yes (and give brief explanation)
Clerk: Is it taking a long time?
Me: We've been waiting a year this month for the referral of our child.
Clerk: Wow, that's a long time.
Clerk: I know what you're going through. We picked our dog out of the litter when she was 2 weeks old and then had to wait 8 weeks to bring her home.
Me: silence, dead panned look Clerk hands me the receipt and we leave.
Clerk: left wondering if patron developed an immediate bout of muteness.
There are not many times that I'm rendered speechless. While I may not always have a witty response, I generally have some response. But had I opened my mouth something would have come out. And it wouldn't have been kind. Or grace filled. Or Christlike.
It would have sounded something like "You are comparing adopting a child to buying a dog? For real? Have you lost your mind? Seriously lady, you're joking right? Child? Dog? No freakin' comparison"
So yes, it was better that I was speechless or just struck silent by ignorance. Either way, not having to be removed by HEB security was a good thing.
Surprisingly, I wasn't upset by her.... shall we call it, ignorance. Rendered speechless, yes. Disappointed in her comparison, highly. But more so, just amazed at the stupid things people say.