Thursday, April 26, 2012

Australia, Infertility & Adoption

For us, infertility truly wasn't the worst thing that could happen to us.  We always planned on adopting eventually but eventually came a lot sooner than we were anticipating.  Of course adopting isn't easy; putting every aspect of your life out in the open, talking about personal things with complete strangers, the cost of adoption services and of course the waiting - it's a little difficult, I tell you.  And I'll admit sometimes the ease which some people conceive, the certainty of no one changing their minds and the time lines of a pregnancy makes me envious. 

For us, adoption was (and is) an easy choice, but not always easy.  I've always loved this analogy involving Australia and traveling to get there. 

Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it's a wonderful place. You've read many guidebooks and feel certain you're ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip.

So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you: You'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait - and wait - and wait.

Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, "Relax, you'll get on a flight soon." Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, "It's not fair!"

After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat."

"By boat!" you say, "going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money, I really had my heart set on going by plane." So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat.

It's a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip.

Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many friends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than air.

People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like, "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible: traveling by sea is so easy."

You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not in the way you got there, but in the place itself. - Diane Armitage

Every ones journey is different; while some people conceive naturally, others conceive through treatment, some adopt and others decide not to have children but it doesn't mean any ones journey is the wrong one. 

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

That Australia story is so true. And sad... I don't like sad stories Mere!